Sometimes I look at you…

Sometimes I look at you and I don’t see you.

I see the dishes left on the kitchen counter instead of being put in the dishwasher.

I see the DIY jobs that you keep telling me you’ll do “at some point”.

I see the piles of laundry, the messy house, the unfinished jobs.


I don’t see the tiredness in your eyes from the hard work you do to provide for your family.

I don’t see the way our girls’ eyes light up when you walk through door.

I don’t see the things that you do, just those that you didn’t do.


I forget.

I forget the man who made me the happiest girl in the world the day he asked me to marry him.

I forget the man who stood next to me at the altar and promised to be there for better, for worse.

I forget the man who looked deep into my eyes and helped give me strength when I gave birth to our beautiful children.


And then once in a while, I open my eyes and see you clearly once again.

I see the man I first fell in love with as clearly as if someone turned the pages of time backwards for just a moment.

I see the man who has seen my darkest moments, but still manages to see the best in me throughout.

I see the man who has so much love to give and whose family are the most important thing in his life.


I remember.

I remember the little thoughtful things that you do every single day.

I remember the times you have been there for me, for us – being a rock to hold onto in the storms of life and a shoulder to cry on when it all gets too much.

I remember all the million and one things I love about you.


There are times when I take you for granted.

There are times when we don’t communicate as well as we should.

There are times when married life feels like a battleground.


But there are many more times when we walk in step together.

Those times when we realise how well we work as a team.

Those times when everything falls into place and life just feels right.


Sometimes I look at you and I see you – my hubby, my partner, my soulmate.


Me and hubby looking at each other

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73 thoughts on “Sometimes I look at you…

    1. Thank you Gemma. He has read it – I always run posts like this past him first to make sure he’s happy for me to share them x

    1. Thank you Caroline – definitely easy to focus on the things that don’t happen sometimes and something I do far too often!

  1. Awww, that’s so lovely! And so right! That’s it, I’ll appreciate my husband more (though about to go to IKEA, where we all know arguments happen within the first 10 minutes).

  2. Louise this is absolutely hands down my favourite post you’ve ever written and I have tears streaming down my face. This is me too, I don’t see either. Today I’m going to open my eyes. x

    1. Thank you so much Katy – sorry to make you cry but so glad you enjoyed my post. Thank you for such a lovely comment x

  3. BEAUTIFUL poem Louise. You have captured so perfectly the feelings of so many I am sure. I can certainly relate. What a wonderful tribute to your husband and a beautiful photo. x

    1. Thank you so much Rebecca, I think we all have moments of taking our partners for granted at times and it’s so easy to forget what brought you together when caught up in the challenges of family life x

    1. Thank you Catie – I know it’s something I’m guilty of far too often. Thank you for your lovely comment, glad you enjoyed reading it x

    1. Thank you – I know it’s not one that everyone will be able to relate to but glad you enjoyed reading even if it didn’t speak to you in that way x

  4. Oh this is beautiful and words I could also say to my own love. So so true . Thank you for reminding me. Lots of
    Love to you both xxx

    1. Thank you Claire – glad you enjoyed it. Lots of love to you and your beautiful family xx

  5. This is absolutely beautiful and really hit a note with me today, I have been a little awful to my husband lately because of other stresses… But it’s not his fault. Xx

    1. Thank you Caroline – it’s so easy to do when there are other stresses – I know I’m often guilty of doing the same x

  6. Awww this is beautiful! I definitely take my partner for granted sometimes too. We both work hard to keep our family going that we often forget to take the time for ourselves. #TwinklyTuesday

  7. Aaaw this is lovely… Am already hormonal and emotional! Sniff sniff!! So easy to take our favourite people for granted a bit, nice to take a minute to remember their awesomeness!

  8. This is a beautiful post Louise. It’s so easy to get wrapped up in the daily mundane things that sometimes pee us it’s easy to take them for granted! Thanks for linking up with #TwinklyTuesday

  9. beautiful post! You are right, so easy to get someone for granted and sometimes we are so busy with life and so many things that we don’t look at each other anymore. I hope you showed this post to your husband! It’s really beautiful #SharingtheBlogLove

  10. Oh Louise this is beautiful. I am definitely guilty of taking my husband for granted and only seeing the things he hasn’t done. I too am going to open my eyes up more and see past that more often. Thank you for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove x

  11. Oh that’s beautiful and so insightful as I bet many of us feel this way. I know I Certainly do and you have out it into words so very well! #sharetheblogginglove xx

  12. Oh, this is just a beautiful post Louise, I love it! I know I’m guilty of doing the same, and I think it’s probably inevitable that it happens in a marriage, but it’s so important to remind ourselves of it and appreciate all the amazing things about our partner, and what a great team we make. Thanks so much for sharing this with us at #SharingtheBlogLove

  13. Louise that is such a beautiful poem. It’s so lovely to hear that there are men like your husband out there. Both of my partners have treated me badly and I would love to one day meet a man I can say those words to. Someone that truly deserves to hear them. We often take the people we love the most for granted but I’m sure he knows how much you love him.. xx

  14. Having read both your post and some of the comments I have to agree with Tor, the words you speak of and to your husband give us hope in mankind! Xx #thetruthabout

  15. This brought tears to my eyes. I think I am probably in Tor’s and Sam’s camp. As women who have all left pretty shitty relationships in the non-too-distant past, this post gives us hope that there are great men out there, but also validates our decisions. I for one can say that my relationship with my ex sure as hell wasn’t like that. thank you for sharing. Pen x #thetruthabout

  16. This is such a fantastic post, and really resonates with me. There are times when it seems that all my partner and I do is argue, but I could never be apart from him! He works so hard and is an amazing dad. I should tell him more often #SharingtheBlogLove

  17. Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful. I have tears rolling down my cheeks! It’s so easy to take each other for granted when we’re all working so hard at life. This post has given me a good kick up the backside to make more of an effort to ‘see’ my wonderful husband #SharingTheBlogLove

  18. Aww this is just so true and something I am very guilty of. With four children we very rarely see eachother as anything other than parents, I need to make more of an effort with this! #sharingthebloglove

  19. This is beautiful. I’m trying to do exactly this at the moment. Of course it gets difficult to appreciate your partner as much as you should, life just gets in the way some days. I would hate to forget to slow down and appreciate my Hubby for everything he is, was and will be.

  20. Thank you for this reminder, Its so easy to forget these things in the midst of day to day life, A lovely, beautifully written post that i’m going to send to my husband to let him know i haven’t forgotten him amongst the chaos #sharingthebloglove

  21. Beautifully put, Louise. It can be so easy to start to take each other for granted and look past all the good things to the little things that niggle us, can’t it?

  22. I think I’ve got something in my eye – ahem. What a lovely piece and a wonderful reminder to us all not to take each other for granted. Life changes so much when you have children and it’s easy to lose sight of who we were and who we are now. x #SharingtheBlogLove

  23. Oh, this is so beautiful and heartfelt, Louise! And I feel quite the same about my partner. What could make us happier than love and harmonious family life? πŸ™‚ #SharingtheBlogLove

  24. Such a beautiful post! It is so easy to take each other for granted and moan about the everyday stuff to one another. It’s refreshing to remember you’re with someone that supports and loves you know matter what! #sharingthebloglove

  25. I really love this. Thanks for reminding me to really look at my husband and see him. #SharingtheBlogLove

  26. Louise, this is quite simply beautiful. I think you managed to encapsulate it all in your poem: the routine, the fact when couples grow, they can also grow apart and take each other for granted, the challenges of marriage. Your focusing on the positives, on what made you and him US is beautiful, powerful, full of love. xxxxxx

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