I’ve been told a few times since Jessica died that I need to have counselling. I’m sure the people who tell me this mean well, but it leaves me wondering why they think I need it so much.   Is it because they feel like I’m not coping with my… View Post

Friday Focus 07/09/18 – Emotional firsts

Friday Focus 07/09/18 – Emotional firsts

This week has been a particularly emotional one as two big firsts have come together: the first of Jessica’s birthdays without her and Sophie’s first day at school. We’ve also come to the end of our first summer without Jessica which was also our first one with Thomas. So many… View Post

To Sophie on her first day at school

To Sophie on her first day at school

Darling Sophie, Today is your first day at school. A big step for you and one that you are ready to take. I know that you will take it in your stride and I am sure you will love your time at school. You are so confident and outgoing, as… View Post

Forever six

Forever six

Darling Jessica,   Tomorrow is your seventh birthday. You should be getting excited about it, looking forward to your cards and presents, telling me what cake you want. But you’re not here. You are frozen forever in time. Forever six. I won’t get to see you celebrate another birthday, or… View Post

Grieving dads matter too

Grieving dads matter too

So much of what I read about child bereavement focuses on grieving mothers. I read things like “there is no pain greater than that of a grieving mother” and while I understand why people write that, it also makes me cross. The pain of a grieving mother is often acknowledged… View Post