Siblings – July 2019

I can’t quite believe that we’re now almost a year into this new chapter of the Siblings project. A chapter that is full of ‘if only’s and ‘what if’s. Reflecting on the sibling bond between my two youngest children while forever being conscious of the three sibling bonds that I should have also been watching – between Jessica and Sophie; between Jessica and Thomas; and the bond between them all as a trio. Wondering what our photos would have looked like had things been different. Wishing that we could have been able to include Jessica herself instead of a photo or something representing her.


Thomas and Sophie holding a picture of Jessica in a spinning saucer - "Siblings - July 2019"


Watching Sophie and Thomas together and seeing their beautiful bond makes me smile whilst also making my heart ache. It can never replace the sibling bonds that they have both lost with their biggest sister but I am glad that they have each other and that they clearly adore each other.


It is lovely to see Thomas being able to interact more with Sophie as he gets bigger and to start to be able to play a little. This month’s photos are taken from a trip to the park. I remember taking lots of photos of the girls lying in the spinning saucer and now I am doing the same with Sophie and Thomas. It is lovely to watch Sophie spinning him around or pushing him in the swing although it breaks my heart when I see her head for the seesaw. She and Jessica were just the right sizes to be able to play together on the seesaw. It will be quite some time yet before she can seesaw with Thomas. But I am grateful that in spite of having a bigger age gap, there is still a close sibling bond between them even if they will never be playmates in the same way that Jessica and Sophie were.


Thomas and Sophie holding a picture of Jessica in a spinning saucer


One year of Siblings photos with my trio. Two growing and changing; one forever frozen in time. But always there, always part of that siblings unit. And looking back it’s nice to see that we’ve found different ways to include Jessica. It isn’t how it should be. But she’s still there. Still loved. Still one third of this little trio.


Photos of my trio from each month over the last year - one photo for each month from August 2018 - July 2019


Thomas (0 years 11 months)

  • Received his 5 signs certificate at Tiny Talk and attended his last baby class – we’ll be moving up to toddlers in September.
  • Is really on the move now and can crawl quite quickly!
  • Can now pull himself up to stand and is starting to work out how to cruise around the furniture.
  • Had his fifth tooth through (top left incisor) and the sixth one is nearly there now too.


Thomas and Sophie holding a picture of Jessica in a spinning saucer


Sophie (5 years 8 months)

  • Was cast as Gretl in The Sound of Music and is enjoying the start of rehearsals. She’s also been busy rehearsing for her ballet show.
  • Enjoyed taking part in her first school sports day and was very happy that her team won.
  • Received her badges and a certificate for winning the Explorer marks competition at the Girls’ and Boys’ Brigades awards evening.
  • Made me very proud with a glowing first school report, especially with her teacher describing her as being “kind and caring and always wants to make everyone happy.”


Thomas and Sophie holding a picture of Jessica in a spinning saucer


Jessica (forever 6 years 7 months)

  • At the start of the school sports day, a huge dragonfly kept flying around the children and parents. I like to think it was Jessica letting us know she was there too.
  • Sophie and her friends helped pot an azalea in the courtyard at Girls’ Brigade in memory of Jessica.

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