This week’s prompt asks the question: ‘Are women better parents than men?’
Someone (I suspect it was a man) once said that when you’re a child you learn the difference between right and wrong and when you get married you learn the difference between right and ‘correct’. Hubby and I laugh over this, but there is an element of truth in it. I have to confess that I can be a bit of a control freak and it can be hard for me to see that just because hubby does not do things ‘my’ way, doesn’t mean that he is doing it wrong. Whether it’s the way he loads the dishwasher or the way he parents our children, I have to learn to accept that he has his way of doing things and I have mine. As long as we’re generally singing from the same songbook, does it really matter if we have differing approaches?
Am I a better parent than my husband? Sometimes I think I would be tempted to answer ‘yes’ – especially on those days when I am stubborn and insisting that my way is the right way to do things. After all, it is me who does the lion’s share of the parenting, me who is there day-in-day out having to deal with the mundane, the little things, the things that hubby doesn’t notice or think of when he takes over the parenting role and gives me some time out. But just because I do most of the parenting does not mean that I am the better parent. We bring different skills, different approaches, we complement each other. I might be the one that my babies run to first when they fall over and need cuddles, but hubby has more patience when we are both struggling under the fog of sleep-deprivation and is more laid-back than I am. Under this kind of pressure, I would say he is the better parent just because he is the calmer parent.
On the whole, I would say that most parents, whether they’re fathers or mothers, are trying to do the best job they can for their children. Who is the better parent doesn’t really matter – as long as our children are loved and looked after, we are doing a great job. And on the whole, I think most of us are better parents when we are working together, as a team.
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