Friday Focus (on Thursday!) 05/09/2019 – September sadness

The end of summer and back to school always brings a sense of sadness. I’ve always loved having that extended period of time with the children at home over the summer holidays. The nights starting to draw in, the chill in the air in the early mornings and evenings leaves me feeling melancholy. Another summer over, the awareness of time moving by too quickly. I know a lot of people love the autumn – I do too in many ways – but it takes me some time to resign myself to its arrival.


The word 'sadness' in grey


September is a tough month. Seeing all the back to school photos and knowing that there is a little girl forever missing from them. A little girl who should have been starting junior school this week. Sophie has moved up to Year 1 and is in Jessica’s old class, albeit with a new teacher. This is the school year where she will overtake her sister. It’s started already. She’s outgrown most of Jessica’s old school uniforms and is about to move up ballet classes to a level that Jessica never reached. And it feels so very wrong that there is not a big sister leading the way for her.


Sophie outside the door ready for her first day of Year 1


September also brings increased sadness because it is Jessica’s birthday month. Tomorrow is Jessica’s eighth birthday. Today I will make her birthday cake ready to take it to GreenAcres after school tomorrow. How I miss seeing Jessica’s excitement in the run-up to her birthday.


It’s been a tough week. I’ve cried a lot this week. It’s not helped having hubby away for most of it. Thomas has been waking several times a night and I’ve been struggling with grief insomnia so even when he does sleep, I often find myself unable to do so. I think I just have to get past the next couple of days and hopefully once we settle down into the term-time routine again, the storm will ease for a while.


Things that have made me smile this week

  • Picking plums, apples and blackberries in Grandma’s garden.


Sophie picking apples from the tree in Grandma's garden


  • A couple of afternoons spent catching up with friends.


  • Listening to Thomas saying “clap-clap” and clapping his hands.


  • Watching the children rehearsing ‘So Long, Farewell’


  • Hunting for the lion sculptures around Windsor.


Thomas and Sophie with 'Simba' one of the Lions of Windsor sculptures


  • A lovely card from a friend along with a picture with the saying “Friends are God’s way of looking after you” arriving in the post on the day Sophie went back to school.


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7 thoughts on “Friday Focus (on Thursday!) 05/09/2019 – September sadness

  1. I am so sorry to read that you are struggling, Louise. Sending hugs and love your way for Jessica’s birthday. the card from your friend was wonderful. So thoughtful!

  2. I’m so sorry you are feeling so sad. Sophie is looking so much bigger now, she’s such a beautiful little girl you must be very proud of her the way she has coped with everything. I’ll be thinking of you all today x

  3. Birthdays are a perfect time to celebrate Jessica. I love that you are taking the cake to GreenAcres. I’m sorry you are finding it hard. It is completely understandable. The year I overtook my big sister, in age, felt very strange. I overtook her in height years before. I hope Sophie enjoyed her first day back. If only she lived closer. I have a couple of apple trees that could use her help. #wotw

  4. Sending big hugs. It must be such a hard time for you. I saw the cake you had made for Jessica’s birthday. I hope you had a nice time at GreenAcres. Thinking of you x

  5. There’s a lot of change in the autumn, add that to your grief and it’s no wonder you struggle. I hope you feel better as the routine settles in xx

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