This is a man who isn’t perfect, not by any stretch of the imagination, but this is a man who always tries.
Sometimes he passes through the house like a whirlwind, leaving a mini trail of destruction in his wake.
Sometimes he says the wrong thing, although he never intends to hurt.
He makes mistakes, he gets things wrong but then so do we all.
I am often too quick to fly off the handle, too quick to find fault and see what is wrong rather than what is right.
Often my hubby may not realise something is bothering me until the point where I explode about it.
He might not always think, he might not always see, but once he realises that there is a problem, he will ask “how can I make this better?”
He knows that the thing I’m getting angry about isn’t always the thing that is bothering me deep down.
And so he will stop and take the time to listen, to find out what really is the issue behind the anger.
My hubby is a problem-solver.
If there’s a problem, there must be a solution.
If there’s a solution, he’ll make sure he’ll find it.
Sometimes though, there is no solution, no way of fixing something.
I can see it hurts him to not be able to fix things, to make everything better.
He will do anything to make his family happy.
This is a man who knows that if something is worth having, it’s worth fighting for.
This is a man whose family is the most important thing in the world to him.
This is a man who will give all he can, and do his best to make things better if it’s in his power to do so.
He will always see the person behind a problem and find a way to make them happy if he can.
But he will never change who he is to fit someone else’s agenda.
He is always true to himself.
And I love him for that.
My hubby might not be perfect, might not get things right all the time. But what I love most is that he always tries.
Aww he sounds awesome. I love someone who tries too and puts others first. A very attractive quality. I hope he loves reading this xx #twinklytuesday
Thanks Sarah – I think he’s pretty amazing! He was very chuffed when he read the post! 🙂
Your husband sounds like a good man. I think many of his faults are common husband faults – you’re definitely not alone in having a man who says the wrong thing sometimes, and you’re also not alone in stewing on things until you snap. Isn’t it nice to have a dependable ‘fixer’ and trier around? Mine is the same way 🙂 #TwinklyTuesday
Thanks Robyn – he is a good man and yes it’s nice to have a dependable “fixer” around – glad to hear that your husband is the same 🙂
What a lovely post, I hope that you’ve shared it with him! And you aren’t alone either in having a husband that leaves things about all over the place! I love the photo of you both, you look so happy 🙂
Thanks Jennifer – I did share it with him and he was very chuffed 🙂
I can relate to a lot of this. My husband is a problem-solver too. Sometimes that gets on my nerves when there is no solution or I don’t need him to solve my problem, but he’s still very much trying to be supportive.
I can understand that – it’s lovely that they’re trying to be supportive but frustrating when you don’t need them to solve the problem.
Aww! What a lovely post! Your hubby sounds like a wonderful man!
Thanks Kim – I think he is! 🙂
Ah lovely post hon and it is nice to remember the good things sometimes isn’t it? So easy to focus on the negatives sometimes. What is it with men and solutions though? My hubs always wants to solve things and some things are not that straightforward! Xx
Definitely agree that it is all too easy to focus on the negatives – I’m certainly guilty of doing that at times too!
Louise, this is so lovely. And real too – I love that you say he isn’t perfect – because of course who is? But that’s what marriage and love are all about, so long as people try and are kind, what more can we ask for really? I really dislike things I read in various places about having the perfect partner / relationship. It makes me feel a bit sick and then I remember that there is no such thing, just love and effort. Your husband sounds like a lovely man 🙂
Thank you Yvette – I love your comment about marriage being about love and effort – a very good way of summing it up. I agree that there is no such thing as the perfect partner – we all have our faults but as you say, as long as we try and are kind, that is what really matters.
He sounds like a great husband. Its lovely to hear that he isnt perfect, I always think when people talk of a perfect husband it means they are fudging over the truth because nobody is perfect 100% of the time. But the fact that you can say he isnt perfect but I still love him to bits is what real love is about xx #TwinklyTuesday
Thanks Tracey – definitely agree that no-one is perfect 100% of the time.
Ahh bless you Louise. For some reason I just can’t imagine you flying off the handle! Thanks for linking up with #TwinklyTuesday
Thanks Lisa – I can definitely be Miss Feistypants sometimes – I’m just a bit calmer in my writing though! 🙂
Beautifully put, Louise. There are always things about our partners that sometimes drive us to distraction but then you remember the things you love about them. I’m a bit of a problem-solver too but so is my wife – and one of the first things I learned about her is that when she has a problem she’s not usually looking for a solution but just someone to listen to her. It’s when you have that deep understanding of each other that you know the relationship is special. 🙂
Thank you Tim – it’s great that you learned early on to listen to your wife wanting to talk about a problem and not necessarily have to find a solution to it. I sometimes just like to vent too so I can definitely relate to that. That deep understanding that comes over time really is what makes relationships special, along with all the shared experiences and memories.