Parenting Pep Talk is an occasional series of guest posts all about encouraging other parents by sharing some of our happy moments, the advice that has worked for us and some positive words of encouragement.
Today’s post comes from the lovely Mel who blogs over at Le Coin de Mel. Mel is happily married with four children and a serious food addiction. A keen photographer, she is rarely seen without her camera around her neck. Her blog, Le Coin de Mel is all about food, family life, allergies, crafts, days out and pretty much everything she gets up to with her family. When Mel is not drooling over food on Pinterest or Instagram, she bakes with her children, plans meals, thinks about her next sweet treat, shares recipes with friends or takes photos.
1) Tell us a little bit about you and your family.
Hi, I’m Mel and I have four gorgeous children (biased, moi?) aged 7, 5 2 and 1. My blog, ‘Le Coin de Mel’ is my creative outlet. On it, I share my family’s favourite recipes, record milestones; write about life with allergies, days out and crafts. I might also ramble on about anything that takes my fancy.
2) How would you describe your parenting style?
I think ‘relaxed’ would be the best word to describe my parenting style. I try not to overthink. I also make sure I enjoy every moment with my children. I don’t tend to wish for the next stage to start (crawling, walking, going to the toilet independently, starting school and so on and so forth), because before you know it, these little people will be all grown up and I will be missing all this.
Children are only little for a very short time and I find it important to enjoy their innocence, tend to their needs whilst encouraging them to get to the next stage without pushing it or imposing it onto them. My sixteen months old baby is not walking yet, but it is not because she cannot do it. She is simply not ready for it. You know what? She will be walking all her life, so if she wants to crawl for a little longer, I’ll let her!
3) What’s your favourite thing about being a parent?
Laughing every day, seeing life through the eyes of my children and unconditional love are my three most favourite things in the world. I feel so fortunate I have these little people in my life.
4) What piece of advice have you been given that you found especially helpful?
Being French, breastfeeding is not in my culture at all. In fact, I didn’t know a single person who had breastfed other than my grandmother and my sister-in-law. As soon as I started breastfeeding, I found it incredibly painful and challenging.
Luckily, Hubby’s sister was at the other end of the phone in a flash. She suggested expressing milk before I even considered introducing a bottle. So on day 3, when the milk came in, I started expressing one bottle per day. It relieved my sore breasts and kept my milk supplies high for those growth spurts. It also meant I had a fridge full of milk for later. Perfect!
5) What one piece of encouraging advice would you give to a new parent?
Just listen to your instincts, trust yourself and take everything with a pinch of salt. If you’re having a tough time, always remember it’s just a phase. All children have meltdowns, refuse to eat certain foods, have sleepless nights and test their parents’ patience. Whoever says the contrary is not being fully honest or simply doesn’t remember what it was like to have young children.
It’s just a phase, right?
6) Can you share one of your favourite parenting moments?
OK, now that’s a very embarrassing one, but we’re friends, aren’t we, Louise?
On the day Crevette turned 3, he came to the bathroom for a wee when I was in the shower. He glanced at me for a second and started shouting, in a panic: “Maman, where’s your willy gone?”
You know what: when you’re a parent, you’re never bored and kids are my favourite people to be around. They’re so much more entertaining than TV!
7) Anything else that you would like to share to encourage other parents?
Life is a journey not a destination: enjoy the little things!
Want to know what mornings are like with four young children? Check this post. (
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Thank you Mel for sharing your words of encouragement, advice and happy parenting moments.