Friday Focus 01/06/18 – A quiet week

It’s been a quiet half-term for us. Normally I would have filled the week and enjoyed getting out and about, but I’ve just not had the energy to do so. We’ve had a couple of short trips out, but otherwise have mostly stayed at home. I’m acutely aware of how quiet the house is with just Sophie. I miss the chatter between Sophie and Jessica and the way they used to play so happily together. Sophie is starting to play more with the toys that she and Jessica loved and I’m seeing a little more imaginative play again as she chats away to herself. It’s nice to see her starting to lose herself in play again even though it does make my heart ache for those moments when she and her sister would play together.


Quiet - this week's word of the week


We visited Jessica’s grave for the first time last weekend. Sophie asked quite a few questions which showed that she did understand about Jessica being buried there. After a few minutes there, she wanted to go back to the car. Had she not been with us, we probably would have stayed longer but we felt it was best not to push Sophie beyond her comfort levels. She did have a big cry on the way back to the car and told us she missed Jessica. She doesn’t often cry for her sister, but I think it was good for her to be able to do so. Since then, she has been talking a little more about Jessica which has been nice to hear.


Things that have made me smile this week

  • Spending time with Godmummy Katy and watching Sophie having fun with her at soft play.


Sophie and Godmummy Katy in the ball pit


  • My friend Denise hosting a coffee morning in aid of Little Hearts Matter and managing to raise £118. Sophie loved helping out, especially with doing the washing up!


  • Sophie gathering up fallen rhododendron blooms on a walk around Black Park.


Sophie gathering fallen rhododendron blooms at Black Park


  • Raiding hubby’s wardrobe now that most of mine no longer fits and realising that men’s shorts are so much more comfortable than women’s ones. Not to mention the lovely deep pockets that they have.


  • Watching Sophie play with Playmobil although I did shed a tear too when I saw how she’d set up the Playmobil hospital in just the same way that Jessica used to.


  • Finding one of Jessica’s drawings while tidying up.


Jessica's drawing of her favourite toys Kerry, Doll and Monkey


  • Sophie spotting a hedgehog in the garden.


  • Hearing Sophie laughing as she played tag with Daddy.


  • Seeing the Flying Scotsman pass through our nearest train station.


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6 thoughts on “Friday Focus 01/06/18 – A quiet week

  1. Sending so much love to you all, I’m glad Sophie is bringing you smiles. It must have been so sad for you all visiting Jessica’s resting place xx

  2. It’s lovely to hear that Sophie is starting to play again, she must miss Jessica terribly. Jessica’s drawing is so colourful, although sad to come across it must bring a little reminder of how much she loved to draw and create.
    I’ve pinched my hubby’s shorts this week and I’m reluctant to give them back. Sending love as always x

  3. Sending love and hugs….
    I am glad that Sophie is playing again and is talking about Jessica. My heart breaks for you and your family.
    My youngest got her Playmobil hospital out during the week after not playing with it for a while and it did make me think of Jessica.
    hehehe. You pinching your hubbies shorts did make me chuckle.

  4. That drawing of Jessica’s is adorable, what a lovely thing for you to find. It must be so difficult for you and Sophie to get used to her playing alone. I know you have an amazing support network and families surrounding you, but if Sophie would ever like a playdate with my girls we’d love to meet you somewhere for a day.

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