Parenting Pep Talk is a weekly series of guest posts all about encouraging other parents by sharing some of our happy moments, the advice that has worked for us and some positive words of encouragement.
Today’s post is from Oana who blogs at Blondie Mommy’s Stories. Over to you, Oana!
1) Tell us a little bit about you and your family
Hi there. My name is Oana. I’m a new mommy blogger and a freelance writer. My family has four members: me, my husband – Mihai, our three year old son, – David, and our furriest cat, Fluffy, which, since David came into our lives, is not so fluffy anymore (has a short haircut). We live in Bucharest, Romania.
2) How would you describe your parenting style?
Having a lot of friends who had kids before we did, helped a lot. We’ve seen a lot of good and bad parenting examples in their homes. I saw what kind of mother I wanted to be through their examples as parents. I know I am the first example in my kid’s eyes, so I also tried and changed my bad habits along the last three years and five months. In best I hope. I learned to be a better person, a more loving one. I still try and stay connected to my son, to his needs. He knows that whatever would happen or if he had a doubt, he will always know he can come in my arms.
I try and give him as much attention as I can, taking into consideration also my needs as a person. I play with him. I try and teach him to be kind (as much as he understands kindness at this age), to love animals (he kisses and embraces our cat every day) and to learn from his mistakes.
I believed in letting him scream and cry, now I believe in his need to connect more with me. Things change. We learn as we go. This is parenting I think.
3) What’s your favourite thing about being a parent?
I love being a mum because of the fun, the giggles, the tickles, the laughter, the hugs and kisses.
Also, the opportunity that I have to be able to watch my son grow, being a stay-at-home-mom, makes all the hard work worth it.
4) What piece of advice have you been given that you found especially helpful?
Starting this adventure called parenthood, we have received advices from many people, including our family. The most valuable lesson I’ve received and applied was to be patient and stay calm. My son is very stubborn and full of energy and there are times when I want so much to slap him (especially during his temper tantrums). But I don’t. I try and remain calm, or at least I calm myself. Breath in, breath out. As simple as that.
5) What one piece of encouraging advice would you give to a new parent?
My encouraging advice to a new parent is this: “Trust your instincts!”. Although everyone around you will tell you what to do, do as you feel is best for you and your child.You will know what’s right for your family.
6) Can you share one of your favourite parenting moments?
This is a hard question. My son is at the age when he does a lot of new stuff that amazes us. But definitely, one of my favourite parenting moments was when me and my husband got back home from our one week long vacation (without our kid). David was staying with my mother in our home and was impatiently waiting for us to arrive. He was full of emotions when he saw us home, hugging us and kissing us. He needed to connect with us and kept asking us to play together.
7) Anything else that you would like to share to encourage other parents?
I’ve found a lot of help in a parenting book that I’ve read during my pregnancy. The book is called Secrets of the Baby Whisperer: How to Calm, Connect, and Communicate with Your Baby by Tracy Hogg. It definitely helped me understand my baby and it made it all so simple for me.
Thank you Oana for sharing your positive parenting moments and the advice you have found helpful.
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