There are a lot of parenting blogs out there. Over 8000 active parenting blogs on the Tots100 index alone. Sometimes it might seem that the internet is a little saturated with parenting blogs, all trying to make their voices heard. Awards seasons can cause bloggers to compare themselves unfavourably to others, to feel like they’re not good enough. Sadly bloggers occasionally find themselves being attacked by other bloggers. Made to feel that their words aren’t good enough, that they have nothing original to say and that they should just quit. Well you know what? There’s plenty of room for all of us in this big blogosphere.
Your blog is your voice, your space on the internet and your place to write about whatever you choose. So you want to use your blog as an online journal, recording memories of the things your children have done or said, the days out and the fun times that you have together. That’s great – what a wonderful way of helping to preserve those memories so you can look back on them.
Maybe you are brutally honest about the challenging moments of parenthood – using your blog as a means to let off steam. That’s fine too – it probably helps you as well as others who are reading and facing similar challenges.
Your blog might be funny, it might be serious. You might choose to stay anonymous or open. Maybe you share fabulous recipes, amazing crafts or beautiful photography. Or maybe you just share the ordinary, the every day. Whatever it is – be proud of it.
You might have thousands of readers, or just a handful but it’s always worth remembering that people read your blog because they choose to do so. Nobody, not even your mum, absolutely has to read your blog. And if people return, it’s because what you have to say has meaning for them. Chances are at least one person has read something you’ve written, identified with it and perhaps felt a little less alone as a result. Or they might have been challenged to think about something, or inspired to do something. Equally there will always be people who don’t like your blog – no matter how successful or well-written it might be.
We all have moments of feeling like we are very small fish in a very big pond; moments of feeling like we are shouting into an abyss and that no-one really cares what we write. Sometimes we just need to stop and remember why we started blogging, and the things we enjoy about it.
Write what you want but be realistic too. We can’t all be professional bloggers, we can’t all be award-winning bloggers. We can’t all be big fish in the blogging world. If your blog is just your online diary then reaching the top 10 of the Tots100 is probably not going to happen. If that’s your goal, you’ll need to write more for others than yourself.
Whatever you write about though, stay true to yourself. It is much better to be the best version of you than try to be an inferior version of someone else. Your stories, your experiences and the way you tell them are unique to you. You might just be one voice in a big crowd, but you have as much right to be part of that crowd as anyone else. There might be thousands of parenting bloggers out there, but there’s plenty of room for us all.