We’ve been enjoying a lot of time together as a family over the last few weeks as we have been away on holiday. Being able to spend quality time together always makes such a difference and it gives our marriage a little boost, helping us remember the things we love about each and why we work so well as a team. For this month’s Me and You post, I thought I’d ask hubby to share some of his views about marriage and what he feels works for us as a couple.
What is your favourite thing about marriage?
Having a life partner, someone that you’re committed to sharing the journey with. No matter how difficult things might be, as long as we have each other, we can face them together. I’d feel lost without you – you’re my rock. I feel like I’m married to my best friend and that even when things are uncertain and difficult, I have the best person to face them with.
It’s also the shared history, the shared memories and then when you have children together, being able to share the little milestones together as parents.
What have you learnt during our five years of marriage?
That my wife is always right! But also that she needs me as much as I need her.
What piece of advice would you give to newly married couples?
It’s important to take time for the other person, even if it’s just a few minutes to take something off their hands, such as doing the washing up. Spending time together, saying “I love you” regularly and good communication is also important.
What little things are important to you/do you love?
I try to make the effort when I’m working late to phone home so we can talk to each other at the end of the day. Even if I can’t be physically present, it still helps to connect. I know I get busy and am often not around so I do try to help and make sure we spend time together when I am around.
I get frustrated when you get mad over something and the thing you’re mad about is not actually the issue that is bothering you.
I love it when you leave me little notes, or drop into work to say hello and send me photos of the children every day when I’m working away. I love that we have the same sense of humour and that we randomly get the same ideas, like deciding to embark upon the gold postbox challenge together.
Thank you lovely hubby for sharing your views on our marriage (and for your lovely comments). Me getting mad over things that aren’t really the underlying problem makes me realise that communication is something that we always do have to keep working on, but whilst we may bicker frequently, there are more than enough happy moments and big hugs to make up for the tense moments.
We managed to grab a brief moment in the garden to take this month’s photos – a moment that is fairly typical of married life with two small children – making the most of the brief moments when you can take time together to connect and remember who you are as a couple as well as being Mummy and Daddy.