Friday Focus 17/12/21 – Déjà vu

I’m sure I’m not alone in the feeling of déjà vu as we get closer to Christmas with the current sharp rise in Covid cases. We’ve been cancelling activities this week in the hope that we might be able to have Christmas as planned but I can’t help feeling that we’ll be forced to change them at the last minute, just like last year.


The word déjà vu in purple


I’m sad about the cancelled Christmas sessions at Thomas’s toddler group, the missed carol concert at Sophie’s school and all the other things we had planned that we’ve had to pull out of, plus the uncertainty and the anxiety has made me very stressed this week. Christmas is a tough time of year anyway and I’ve had more than one moment of wishing I could just forget it all and escape to a desert island! I know that we’re very fortunate, that there are many, many people in the world far worse off than we are and that whatever happens, we’ll get through as best we can. For now, we’ll do our best to stay as safe as we can and keep everything crossed for a Covid-free Christmas!



What I’ve been grateful for this week:


Sophie sitting on the sofa wearing her Girls' Brigade uniform; cheese scones, cakes and blondies on a kitchen counter; a Christmas wreath at Jessica's forever bed; Sophie with three finger puppets - a cat, a duck and a squid; Thomas sitting at the table playing with Duplo; Thomas and Sophie sitting on our new red corner sofa; a very short-haired Thomas standing in front of a hedge - "#365daysofgratitude 2021 - Week 50"


  • Day 344 – I am grateful for my kind caring little girl who has been so helpful this afternoon while I’ve been struggling to function due to vertigo. She’s helped look after me and Thomas and gone out of her way to do little helpful things.


  • Day 345 – I am grateful for my lovely church family who baked for my coffee morning today as I was unable to do so and helped out with serving tea and coffee and entertaining Thomas. Vertigo is a little better today but I’m still struggling with moving about too much and the help has been so much appreciated. Thank you too to everyone who came along and helped us fundraise for Little Hearts Matter.


  • Day 346 – I am grateful for a safe space for grief in the run-up to Christmas. We took Jessica’s Christmas wreath to her forever bed today and lit a candle for her at the Christmas remembrance service. It’s not how Christmas should ever have to be but it is our reality and it is important to have that space for all the emotions and the love to be expressed freely, especially at a time of year when there is so much pressure to be merry and make Christmas magical. Sending love to all those I know who are also finding Christmas especially hard due to grief. Hope you can also find the safe spaces you need to help make the festive season a little more bearable x


  • Day 347 – I am grateful for Sophie’s creativity and imagination.


  • Day 348 – I am grateful for an encouraging report from preschool for my baby boy.


  • Day 349 – I am grateful for my lovely new sofa.


  • Day 350 – I am grateful for a haircut for Thomas.



Other things that have made me smile this week:

  • The recycled Nativity at church made by the Girls’ Brigade.


A Nativity scene made of cardboard tubes, plastic bottles and other junk items


  • Seeing Father Christmas at the Christmas remembrance service at GreenAcres.


Sophie standing next to Father Christmas


  • Thomas and Sophie being able to enjoy their Christmas party days at school.


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23 thoughts on “Friday Focus 17/12/21 – Déjà vu

  1. Christmas can be a difficult time for so many people, it’s always good to try and focus on the positive. It’s definitely looking like deja vu thanks to Covid. We don’t really mix at Christmas anyway, but I do feel for those who have to choose which family members they can see. It’s also really difficult for those that are missing family members x

    1. It is, isn’t it? We’re trying to be cautious and reduce our social contacts at the moment and are hoping to see some of my family near Christmas, but have decided that we will meet outside to make it safer for all concerned.

  2. I think you are very wise to focus on keeping clear so you can meet up with family at Christmas. I hope your vertigo is better and people are so good to step in when you need it. Including Sophie, of course. I absolutely love that Father Christmas is dressed in green. Your visit with Jessica at her forever bed is precious time, I know. Hope you have a good run-up to Christmas and all keep well. #wotw

    1. Thank you Cheryl. I’m feeling much better now. Hope you and your family have a nice Christmas.

  3. Ahh! It does feel like deja vu. We haven’t made any big plans and will be spending Christmas with just the 4 of us. The only thing that has been cancelled for us is the Christmas carols around the Christmas tree on Christmas eve up the road. So sorry that so much has been cancelled for you. It seems so unfair.
    It sounds like everyone in your life has been wonderful while you have been suffering from vertigo. I hope you are feeling better now. Sending love and hugs. x

  4. Oh no! I’ve come to expect that things might just change constantly. The cases are so high now and rising! I hope you and your family have a nice Christmas.

    1. It is worrying with the rise in cases, isn’t it? I’m psyching myself up for more restrictions soon. Hope you and your family have a nice Christmas too.

  5. So funny seeing a Father Christmas in green. Were the children confused by that?
    I’m still hoping that meeting 2 friends outdoors tomorrow will be fine but otherwise don’t have anything else on. Our pub meal for Christmas eve with all the family has been cancelled. I’m concerned that we might end up with a 2 week lockdown after Christmas – that’s our 2nd attempt at Blenheim light trail after it was cancelled last year, and Waddesdon that we’d not be able to do.

    1. We’ve seen this Father Christmas a few times so they’re used to seeing a Father Christmas in green. Hope that you were able to meet up with your friends.

  6. Glad you’ve found your safe space at this time of year. Sorry you’ve been unable to attend Sophie and Thomas’s end of year events. I hope the vertigo doesn’t cause you problems for too long and you can get it under control. How lovely you have the extended family in the church to help you out.

    1. Thank you, the vertigo has gone now which is good. It helped having such good support to get through it.

  7. I hope that the Vertigo has disappeared, so nice that everyone as been helping out too. Love the colour of your new sofa fab choice. I hope that you have a wonderful Christmas xx

  8. I hope that the Vertigo has disappeared, so nice that everyone as been helping out too. Love the colour of your new sofa fab choice. I hope that you have a wonderful Christmas and a Happy New Year x

  9. Hope the vertigo didn’t last long. Our boys need a hair cut but we’re waiting until after all the Christmas photos are taken as it always takes a fortnight to settle in/get used to! #project365

    1. It took just over a week to go completely but was manageable the last few days, thankfully.

  10. So sorry to hear you have been unwell with Vertigo, hope your feeling much better. How lovely that the church step in and help out, looks like they baked some tempting treats from your photo! Fab new sofa, I love the colour! I like the recycled Nativity, it looks very creative.

  11. Your fab new sofa looks very comfy indeed! Hoping mine will arrive in the next 2 weeks, I cannot wait! 🙂 Sorry to hear you are still suffering with the vertigo – hope you are feeling better now! Glad to read Sophie and Thomas got to enjoy their Christmas party days at school – was only saying to a friend recently how much kids have missed out the past 2 Christmases. Hopefully this next Christmas will be a lot better.

    Hope you all had a fabulous Christmas and you managed to take some time out for you! Sim xx

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